Ah, the dating world. It can be intimidating, thrilling, nerve-wracking, and can cause the normally confident and composed person to shrink into a blubbering idiot (hey, no laughing, we’ve all been there). But, alas, searching for that special someone is something many of us do, no matter how painful it may be. So, how does the modern-day dater conduct such an uphill battle? Well, for the increasing number of singles out there, they’re using a pretty popular dating platfrom: Match.com.
Now, before you brush off Match.com dating with a bunch of preconceived notions, look at it realistically. We lead online lives. Plus, according to a recent New York Times article, it’s becoming more natural to find a partner on the Internet. So, how do we ensure the people we’re meeting on sites like Match.com will be the same people we could potential meet offline?
1. Find out the important information
Before you commit to anything, remember to get the information lowdown from the person you’re talking to. This means something you can trace back to them, like a phone number or e-mail address. Once you have these details, you can run it through BeenVerified’s social search (for e-mail addresses) or reverse phone search feature (for phone numbers).
Remember, results to social searches and reverse phone searches can vary based on the user. For instance, if the phone number is registered to their brother’s name, the caller ID will be linked to the brother, not necessarily to the person you’re speaking with. In cases like this, be sure to use your best judgement, and of course, find out as much information as you can.
2. Start background checking
If everything matches up when you perform social and reverse phone feature searches, great! However, it’s always good to conduct a deeper search to find out more information. Enter BeenVerified’s full people search report.
Check out to see if their address matches up with their location (be mindful of those who have recently moved). Do family members match up to the ones your Match.com suitor told you about? What about their birthdate and previous places they’ve lived? All this information can help you paint a better picture, as well as find out if they are for real or just full of it. Again, use your best judgement.
3. Dig a little deeper
At this point, you can use what you’ve got or you can dig a little deeper (we obviously advise you to get the full story). Using BeenVerified, you can get information regarding criminal history, bankruptcy, judgments and liens. Why is this important, though? According to the New York Times article we mentioned earlier, people are more likely to tell fibs when they date online. So, it’s important to do your full research in case the person you’re talking to has skewed things a little bit.
In all seriousness, it’s in your best interest to be safe when you’re thinking about taking your online dating life offline. We hope this isn’t the case, but what if you find out your match is serious offender? You’d want to know before, right? On the flip side, it’d be cool to know if they had a mortgage in a different state (can you say future vacation home?).
Bottom line here is do some thorough research on top of the initial search to get the whole story. Sure, it may be bad, but more importantly, what if it’s good? You never know, and can never be too sure, until you take a look.
4. Assess the Match
Once you’ve come to the end of your Match.com background search, it’s time to assess the lucky guy or gal. Did they meet your expectations? Did everything line up? Were they telling some outrageous lies or were things peachy keen? Most important, do you feel comfortable meeting them offline? If yes, congratulations! If not, well, now you know, and won’t have to get a migraine finding out the truth.
Being proactive has its benefits, no matter how hard it may be to achieve it. Thankfully, it doesn’t have to be so bad once you’ve got some basic details. Now, get out there, find your partner, and do some smart research before you guys meet. You’ll thank us in the long run.
What do you think? Do you use Match.com and would you consider background checking a potential partner?